Harnessing Your Power To Create In The New Year

by Judith Rich on January 3, 2010

Happy New Year!  Wel­come to a new decade of your life.  We’ve entered the ado­les­cent years of this cen­tury, still a bit wet behind the ears as a cen­tury goes, still shak­ing off the dust of a pretty hor­ren­dous first decade, but eager to get down to the busi­ness of get­ting on with business.

Often at this time of year, when I ask peo­ple if they made any  New Year’s res­o­lu­tions, I hear things like, “Oh, I don’t even bother to do that any more.  I know I’m not going to keep them, so why set myself up for fail­ure? ”  Does that sound familiar?

So what hap­pens?  We give up on our dreams, and our deep­est desires because look­ing at the past we see a body of evi­dence that demon­strates our lack of fol­low through.  Who can argue with evi­dence?  I mean, there it is, liv­ing proof of your unwill­ing­ness to do what you say you’re going to do.  Liv­ing proof that you can’t be depended upon to keep your word.

Every year, New Year’s res­o­lu­tions fall by the way­side after just a few days.  “Sounded like a good idea at the time, but at ground zero, in the every day trenches, what was I think­ing?  Going to the gym 4 days/week?  Get­ting my desk orga­nized?  Give up smok­ing? Lose 20 pounds?  Get real!  Not going to hap­pen, so let’s not pretend.”

What could have that be dif­fer­ent for you this year and every year from now on?  What’s the dif­fer­ence between you, who might have given up declar­ing new ter­ri­tory because you know you’re going to fail , and peo­ple who year after year, keep tak­ing new ground for them­selves and their lives?  How do peo­ple do that?

Well campers, I’m here to sug­gest that if you want some­thing in your life to be dif­fer­ent than the way it is, if you want to cre­ate dif­fer­ent results, pow­er­ful results, there is one sure fire way to pull it off, but it’s going to cost you some­thing.   You are going to need to learn to get into a pow­er­ful rela­tion­ship with your word.  You’re going to need to learn to honor the power of your word.

Most peo­ple don’t really get the power of their word, so they’re not mind­ful in how they use it.  But con­sider this:  we speak our real­ity into exis­tence. Like every­thing in the uni­verse, words have energy.  Every time you speak the words, “I can’t” you affirm the energy of “I can’t” in your body and mind.  You are impress­ing into your own energy field the con­scious­ness of “I can’t”.   And guess what?  You get to be right about it!  You end up get­ting to be right about what­ever it is you declare that you can’t.  That’s how pow­er­ful your words are.

So why not learn to har­ness this power to move you for­ward instead?  If your words are pow­er­ful enough to keep you stuck in place, surely they must also be pow­er­ful enough to not only get you unstuck, but have you take new ground.  That is absolutely the case, and in order for it to work, it’s nec­es­sary to come into rela­tion­ship with your word wherein you honor it as the most pow­er­ful tool you have for cre­at­ing and man­i­fest­ing your life.  Yes, you heard me, learn to honor your word as your sacred bond.

What does this mean?  Does it mean you should be extremely care­ful in giv­ing your word so that you won’t break it?  That sounds like more evi­dence for not mak­ing dec­la­ra­tions or res­o­lu­tions.  More evi­dence for play­ing it safe.  Isn’t that where you are now?  I know you’re bril­liant and extra­or­di­nary and that you have great poten­tial.  Maybe you’re sit­ting on some of that poten­tial and not really mak­ing the most of it.  How can you s=t=r=e=t=c=h your­self beyond where you cur­rently are?  How can you break­through those old thought pat­terns and behav­iors and set your­self free to cre­ate your life as big as you want it to be?

To truly honor your word is to under­stand its power to call you forth.  In 1961, Pres­i­dent John F. Kennedy declared we would put a man on the moon by the end of the decade.  When he made that dec­la­ra­tion, we didn’t yet have the tech­nol­ogy to put a man on the moon.  His dec­la­ra­tion set into motion the cre­ation of the tech­nol­ogy nec­es­sary to get the job done.  Pres­i­dent Kennedy had no evi­dence that we could do it.  He sim­ply declared it would be.  He spoke his word.  And the rest is history.

Back to those New Year’s res­o­lu­tions you may have made or didn’t make.  When we speak our word, imme­di­ately we’re con­fronted with a gap between where we are and where we say we’re going. There’s you at point X.  There’s the ful­fill­ment of your word at point Z.  In between is the gap, let’s call it Point Y.  The moment you declare some­thing, like a goal or a New Year’s res­o­lu­tion, you’re pulled into the gap.  Wel­come it!  The gap is where the learn­ing is.

In the gap, you’ll be con­fronted by all that is incon­sis­tent with the goal you’ve declared.  All of your lim­it­ing beliefs and con­sid­er­a­tions will appear in the gap.  You’ll hear your­self going through the litany of rea­sons why you shouldn’t have declared this goal, all the rea­sons why it isn’t going to hap­pen.  You’ll tell your­self  you don’t know what you’re doing, you’ve never done this before, what makes you think you can do it now?  You’ll hear those voices of self doubt and dis­be­lief that have held you back for decades.  You know, the ones that affirm you don’t have the right stuff that you don’t have what it takes to get to point Z.

To the extent that you buy into these voices of doubt and fear, you’ll step out of the gap and fall back into your exist­ing pat­terns which, while maybe not being all that bad, rep­re­sent what’s safe and famil­iar.  We humans are like that!  We LOVE the com­fort and safety of famil­iar­ity.   And then you’ll affirm those voices of lim­i­ta­tion.  You’ll add more evi­dence to the pile and end up being right about it.  Unless.

Unless this time, you allow your­self to be in the gap with a dif­fer­ent mind-set.  There is a mind set that will serve you to nav­i­gate  the gap and end up not only get­ting to point Z, but learn­ing more than you bar­gained for along the way.

Since this is a very large theme, we can’t pos­si­bly cover it in one post.   So please stay tuned. and come on back for the next episode of How To Har­ness Your Power To Cre­ate.  The gap is wide and long.  We’re going to nav­i­gate it together as the accom­plished and cre­ative peo­ple that we are.  Are you in?  If so, let me know and then here’s your assign­ment for next time:

1)  With­out evi­dence that you can do it, declare a goal, to be com­pleted by the end of 90 days,  in one or more of the fol­low­ing areas of your life: career, rela­tion­ships, finances, health, per­sonal growth, spir­i­tu­al­ity, com­mu­nity ser­vice, edu­ca­tion, cre­ativ­ity.   You needn’t take it all on in 90 days.  Which 3–4 areas of your life call out to you to take them on now?

2)   Your goal must be S.M.A.R.T. Specific,Measurable, Attain­able, Real­is­tic, Timely.  It must answer the ques­tions, how many and by when?

3) For each goal, iden­tify 3  lim­it­ing beliefs, inner voices that tell you rea­sons why you can’t be, do or have it hap­pen.  For exam­ple, “You don’t have enough expe­ri­ence, you don’t have the right edu­ca­tion, you don’t have enough time to devote to this, you don’t have the money you need, you’re not wor­thy to have this, you don’t deserve it, you’re in over your head, etc.

4) If your goal is too big to be com­pleted in 90 days, break it into do-able chunks.  What por­tion of it can you real­is­ti­cally com­plete in 90 days?

Next time, we’ll set up a strat­egy for get­ting through the gap and to your goals.  Stay tuned.  I’d love to hear from you in the com­ment sec­tion.  What are your goals, what are your lim­it­ing beliefs that up until now, have kept you from reach­ing them?

Let’s blow the doors off the gap!

Bless­ings on the path,

Judith

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Anne January 4, 2010 at 9:55 PM

Hello Judith,

Really good points you make here. My res­o­lu­tions are ongong and my most impor­tant ones are not out­wardly declared. Some­times, they have more energy for fruition by being kept in the dark until they are ready to emerge from germination.

Watch this space!

With love and bless­ings to you,
Anne

Deb January 4, 2010 at 11:06 PM

It has been a long time since I played with the notion of hon­or­ing your word, cre­at­ing a pow­er­ful rela­tion­ship with what you SAY. Most impor­tantly, under­stand­ing the power of the Word to call us forth, speak things into exis­tence, cre­ate new futures, and pull us for­ward into the com­pleted state of that new real­ity. It is an ongo­ing les­son for me to take what I say seri­ously, as a sacred thing. There is another Kennedy story I like about the boys com­ing to walls in the coun­try­side that were too high to scale. The story goes that they would toss their hats over. Now com­mit­ted (and so as not to be in trou­ble for los­ing their hats), they would then find a solu­tion and get to the other side.

Happy New Year, Judith.

James January 5, 2010 at 10:19 AM

Judith,
You lit­er­ally keep ‘writ­ing the book’ on this mate­r­ial and what’s also astound­ing is that you’ve shared this topic with MILLIONS over the years. Imag­ine what YOUR word has cre­ated over time?!
I’d like per­mis­sion to reprint this with full credit on http://www.thehamletsecret.com. Can I use it there?
Here’s to the best year of all,
James.

Judith Rich Judith Rich January 5, 2010 at 10:26 AM

James,
I’d be hon­ored to have you pub­lish this on your web­site! Thanks so much for ask­ing.
Here’s to the best year yet,
Judith

Judith Rich Judith Rich January 5, 2010 at 10:30 AM

Deb,
Love the Kennedy story you shared. It’s a great exam­ple of what it takes (com­mit­ment) to get past our fears and get into action. Hon­or­ing your word, for me, is the con­text for hav­ing live work. Wel­come back to this con­scious­ness.
May the com­ing year be the best year yet for you.

Bless­ings,
Judith

Judith Rich Judith Rich January 5, 2010 at 10:34 AM

Hi Anne,
You also make an inter­est­ing point, about hold­ing your com­mit­ment “in the dark” while it ger­mi­nates. I’ve always held it that to pub­licly declare our inten­tions to one or “com­mit­ted lis­ten­ers” seals our word with those who will hold us account­able and thus, works to keep us on track. Just goes to show, there are many ways to get from here to there. I appre­ci­ate you stop­ping by. Thanks for shar­ing your point of view here.

Many bless­ings,
Judith

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